Im a daddy one month on. It’s been one month now since I became a father and it’s been a hell of a month. It’s been equal parts joy, equal parts tiredeness and everything in between.
How have I found fatherhood in the first month? Pretty awesome but very tiring. Amelia is an absolutely perfect daughter.
The first week of Amelia’s life was really hard. For the first two days at home Amelia had major problems settling down. Liv had at first intended to feed Amelia entirely with breastmilk but Amelia seemed to be constantly hungry and desperate for more. She literally spent 12 hours latched onto Liv’s nipples but after two days when Liv expressed her breast for the first time by hand she discovered she was unable to produce enough breast milk.
This is absolutely no fault of Liv and it really upset her that Amelia was a little starved for the first two days at home but after speaking to one of the midwives “Nelly” (we absolutely love Nelly) she said it’s perfectly fine to mix breastmilk with formula. So with that I quickly ran over to the supermarket, bought a 900g tub of SMA Gold and some ready made cartons and came home and fed Amelia. She literally gulped down about 60ml’s of milk in one go and finally fell asleep. After this Amelia has turned into the most amazing baby. During the day especially she only cries when she’s hungry or has had a poo and at night she does tend to have a little colic but we’ve change the way we feed her and her colic seems to be going.
Every day we try to take Amelia outside for at least a couple hours. We originally bought a body wrap/sling for her, specifically one called the Sleepy Wrap (now called Moby Wrap) and this was absolutely brilliant at first. You wrap it around your body as you can see a few photos below and you then fold your baby’s legs up (just like they were in your womb) and place her in the sling. This was fantastic at first but she always slept in it which defeated the point of taking her out and making her tired. She’s also getting heavier (she was 3.5kgs at birth which dropped to 3kgs a week later. She now weighs at least 4.5kg and is putting weight on every day so if we carry her for long periods in the sling we get back ache.
So now when we take her out we usually put her into her Mamas and Papas car seat and click it into her pushchair. She can see everything that’s going on, it’s doesn’t break our backs and she also doesn’t sleep. On Tuesday we took her out for around 3 hours and she slept fairly constantly, bar two feeds which lasted about 30 minutes each, through the night. The day before we were unable to take her out due to workloads and also crappy weather and we had an awful night with her, constantly crying, hungry, gassy, etc. Nightmare!
On Thursday we took her out for about 7 hours (loads of little jobs to do along with a trip to Kanpai Sushi (yum!!!)) and she slept like a log throughout the night. My parent-in-laws are returning to Taiwan on Monday (they’ve been staying with us for a few weeks) so we’re taking them to a few restaurants before they go home. On Friday we took them to Prestonfield House for afternoon tea (not the best day to go as there was a wedding taking place) but Amelia slept throughout and slept pretty much all night.
This is turning into a really nice pattern!
Other things that we’ve done. One day after her 1 month anniversary we took her to Doodles Ceramics in Marchmont to have impressions made of her hands and feet. This kind of thing can be a little expensive, especially as we’re having two casts made to fit in one frame, but baby hands and especially feet are super cute. It also allows us to document Amelia’s growth so we’re planning to have more casts made at 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, 3 years and maybe finally 4 years. It will take a few weeks to receive these but we really can’t wait.
We also had a go at baby photography. Very very hard! We booked out a studio for half a day one Saturday and we spent about 2 hours sitting around and 10 minutes we taking photos. We arrived and first of all had to feed Amelia. Feeding involves obviously feeding, then burping, then feeding again, then burping again, then changing nappy, another feed, another burp and then she’s done. Sound like a lot of work! Aye, it can be. So anyway, we went through this process, spent 20-30 minutes trying to put Amelia in position and then the cheeky wee one decided to have a massive poo. And when I say massive, it was what we call a tsunami poo, it was enormous! So we had to change her clothes completely, feed her again etc etc.
Eventually we managed to settle her down and we took the photos below. We’d definitely like to have another go at baby photography but perhaps not for a little while.
What else is going on? Liv still has a few medical issues (her arms are still bruised and swollen following her labour and one of her teeth split in half) and I’m getting busier with wedding work. I’ve got 3 weddings this month and 5 in April but I’ve also booked another three weddings which I’m really excited about and will eventually share. I also as of Friday have a food photography job booked for this coming week which I’m really looking forward to. As you will see from both this blog, my website and Liv’s website, we have photographed a LOT of dishes and I really love food photography.
I also might be going to college in the autumn to study web design. I’ve been wanting to learn more web design for a long time and while I know some basic CSS/HTML coding and can make a ball bounce in Flash, that’s about it. I absolutely love my Big Folio website and my blog but there are many things I would like to change and quite frankly I don’t want to pay for these changes.